The Sandwich Generation | Three Steps for Survival – iLegacy Builder

The Sandwich Generation | Three Steps for Survival

Through the ebbs and flows of life, we will all have varying experiences that differ based on family dynamics, as well as life and career choices.

I can remember hearing the phrase, “Oh, just keep living”. There are many things I personally had not experienced in life, and true to form, as one continues to live, life happens!

At this particular stage in life, I find myself on a quest to support others with transforming their lives for the better, as well as my own life.

Some of my followers may be familiar with the concept of the ‘sandwich generation’ while others may not. It’s that somewhat tense stage of life where family dynamics are changing. Children are likely still at home or beginning to leave home by now and parents are aging.

Studies indicate that people are living longer; hence the role of care-giving is increasing. One may find themselves, still nurturing and guiding their children, while straddling the care of aging parents or in my case grandparents. You could very well likely be managing more than one household which can take a toll on you emotionally, financially, mentally, physically, and even spiritually.

While it gives me joy to serve and care for my granny, the sacrifice is immeasurable. I’m indeed grateful to be positioned in life such that I’m able to as it relates to my family dynamics and my current work as an independent consultant, and financial educator.  This girl is indeed striving each day to  ‘Live my Legacy’!

However, personally, this concept of the sandwich generation crept up on me. I was somewhat prepared, however not really prepared at all. Meaning there were some things put in place for the care of my grandmother, however, I now realize there is so much more that one can do to prepare for and survive this stage in life. Don’t procrastinate, have the necessary conversations and take action!

Here are three recommendations:

  1. Proactively structure an effective long term and short term financial plan.
    • Review current life insurance policies, ensure they have living benefits.
    • Review retirement plans, ensure they are structured to minimize tax liabilities
    • Ensure long term savings are set up to last well beyond retirement age.
  1. Define a support system for care.
    • Establish a care plan with family members (doctor appointments, visitations and companionship)
    • Determine best housing needs and the care thereof or facility if warranted
    • Consider meal planning and incidental expenses
  1. Map out legal matters such as a power of attorney, deeds, and wills.
    • Establish a power of attorney, a DNR (do not resuscitate), and a will, the sooner the better!
    • Know where all important documents are. (insurance policies, health insurance information, and bank account information)
    • Be sure that deeds are properly recorded if applicable.

Trust me, from the experience of those I’ve had the privilege to support with these matters as a friend, minister, financial educator, and personally, be proactive!

So what about you, what steps have you taken to plan for your long term care or the care of those you love? Or what recommendations do you have for others based on your experience?

Let me know in the comments!

Cheers to your Legacy!


Rita Stewart, Legacy Builder and Licensed Financial Educator

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Ellyse Johns - October 13, 2018 Reply

Preparation is key!

    Rita Stewart - October 13, 2018 Reply

    It truly is Ellyse. Many want to avoid the conversation, however it’s more difficult to make decisions after the fact. Thank you commenting.

Anita - November 2, 2018 Reply

I lived through the “sandwich generation” stage of my life. My mother passed in 2015 and what I remember most is that there was never a conversation about her end of life wishes or care. She had already handled all of that for herself after taking care of my father who passed in 1996. But her 3 grown children did not know what to do or expect when the time came. However, after her passing, everything that needed to be taken care of was easily found and done. I’m grateful that Mom had the foresight and experience that her grown children did not.

    Rita Stewart - November 2, 2018 Reply

    Your mother was wise and very considerate in her planning. It so much easier to support and manage ones care and/or final wishes when the conversations needed have taken place or plans have been made as needed. Thank you for sharing Anita.

Carla Gardiner - November 2, 2018 Reply

Very true statements and excellent info for other’s enlightenment. I lived this article when my youngest son left for the military and my grandma moved in. It was a trying time as my parents lived next door, yet it wasn’t good for anyone including my mom and dad to care for grandma…so, I did it. Best 8 months of my life; I was able to repay the time I lived with grandma as a young girl…the stories she shared are now memories I pass along to my grandkids about their great, great grandma. But, it wasn’t easy, just worth it.

    Rita Stewart - November 2, 2018 Reply

    Thank you so much for sharing! I can totally relate to your sentiments. I love my granny dearly. I actually feel that I’d rather spend more time with her simply listening, however it’s not quite working out that way (the hard). Yet and still, I’m grateful and humbled bu the opportunity to care for her.

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